Affirmation to Stop Approval Addiction

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Affirmation:

I declare the addiction to man's approval broken over my life. It is my highest honor to honor Who is highest in my life: Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. May every other noise bow to the voice of my Heavenly Father. God is my greatest cheerleader, coach, and friend.

 

I need this affirmation! How about you? I love to make people happy. Sometimes that's possible, other times that's like trying to salvage the Titanic. Approval addiction looks different on all of us.

 

It can look like…

  • Perfectionist tendencies

  • Inability to make decisions

  • Asking everyone's opinion on something

  • Changing your clothes three times before leaving your home

  • Over-cleaning your home

  • Standing with a hunched/closed, or apologetic posture

  • Making excuses, over-apologizing, or providing disclaimers (songwriters are notorious for this!)

  • Not speaking up (never expressing your opinion)

  • Speaking too much (dominating a conversation)

  • Fatigue or short-fused from trying to figure out people's expectations of you

  • Minimizing your successes (to keep the playing field level and to not intimidate)

  • Exaggerating your successes (to look better in front of others)

  • Striving (whatever that means to you)

  • Giving up because it's never "good enough"


Any of these hit ya in the heart? Me too. I need to speak words that break off this over-attachment to approval. This addiction hides behind the real desire to be loved. Ultimately that's why we become approval junkies. We want people to like and love us. Why? We need love. Love is good. It is how God has wired us. Sometimes we attempt to meet our own needs though by trying, striving, and becoming everything everyone else wants us to be so that we experience love, belonging, and attention. 

 

Ouch.

 

Praise God we are already loved. Praise God that His love, attention, and affection for us is unconditional. We don't have to get smart, work harder, be more efficient, be cool, dress more in style, or anything else. In all our bare nakedness - in both spirit and body, we are totally, and completely loved by Jesus. Whew. What a load off.

 

Let me give you a 3 word #faithpearl to help you if you're struggling in this area.

 

Rebuke and Rest.

 

What does that mean? Verbally speak out against that addiction and tendency. Tell approval addiction to buggar off. Tell it all about God's amazing, unconditional approval and love for you. Tell that addiction to leave in Jesus name. Tell approval addiction that it is a lie, and you refuse to believe it anymore. THEN…tell God how grateful, thankful, and at peace you are in His presence. Rest in His goodness. Thank Him for the rest, the repose, the redemption story He is writing in your life.

 

Rebuke - talk to your problem and command it to leave. Tell your problem how good God is.

 

Rest - surrender. Open up your hands and start your day there. When you get stressed or you feel the pressure rising, remind your spirit that you choose to rest in the One who has opened up heaven for you. Choose trust. Choose to take a deep breath and say,

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I rest in You, Jesus.

I rest in You Jesus.

I rest in You Jesus.

 

Do this as many times as you need. There’s no shame in overcoming an addiction. We have to set new thought patterns and renew our mind with straight-up truth. This is what sets us free and gives us the ability to come up for air, resting in the very heart of Jesus.

 

I want to hear my Heavenly Father's voice and heart. I want to be aware and awakened to His nudges. That means I must choose to silence those other competing voices by resting in His strength and power at work in my life.

 

I encourage you to speak this affirmation out loud each day, and to simply pray, "Father, quiet every voice that is not from You. I am hungry to hear You."

 

I hope you have a great week. If you haven't heard any of my new releases check them out on iTunes or on my website - RachelBarrentine.com

  • Meditations for Hope

  • Meditations for Peace

  • Go in the Joy

  • Shame off You 



Joyfully,

Rachel B.


PS - Watch the NEW video here.

Fun fact: I shot this ocean video footage on an iphone on my drive down and back to a catholic monastery in Big Sur, California. I did a “silent” retreat there last summer and that’s where God downloaded these affirmations I’ve been sharing. Full-circle awesomeness. The beauty itself is inspiring!

Affirmation for God's Strength and Provision As Savior

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AFFIRMATION:

I am not the Savior; the weight of the world is not mine to bear or fix. God is able and in control. I joyfully partner with God, resting in His strength, His provision, and His peace.

 

As Easter approaches, I'm reminded that God is sovereign, in control, and has already conquered the darkness. Every victory I experience now was procured at the cross and empty grave. Please let this truth seep into your soul because it changes everything.

 

If you are the type of person that tends to over-achieve, perform to succeed or be loved, or you struggle with co-dependency, this affirmation is just what the Good Doctor ordered. You and I don't have to save the world from pain or problems. In fact, even with our best efforts and over-achieving, we can't.

 

I’m thankful for the Savior. This means, I don't have to be one.

 

What is our role and mission? To love God and to love people. We must leave all the superhero stuff to Jesus. He is fighting our battles. His presence is always with us. We get to partner with God in what He is already at work doing. Our intentional decisions make a world of difference, but the ultimate saving and rescuing is in Christ Himself.

 

Give people Jesus.

 

I often experience a little bit of anxiety when people approach me with their health problems. Their issues are often heavy and complex. I am moved by their stories and pain. In those small moments of fear though, The Great Physician, quietly reminds me that He is the Healer. He holds every provision for their needs. My true responsibility and call is to give them Jesus. Nothing more, nothing less.

 

What does that look like? Honestly, this can look like a myriad of things. I can study and read health books and resources to offer practical tools for people. I can lay hands on and pray over people. I can listen and offer a gentle hug when they're hurting. I can surprise them with a gift of comfort in some way. Or I can make them a meal and bring it over.

 

In the words of Iris Global Ministries, "Love looks like something."

 

Giving people Jesus means loving them right where they are. But it also means I leave my superhero cape in the suitcase. God uses people to bring about His will in the world. But the heavy-lifting is on Him. He is the Savior, the Miracle-Maker, the Deliverer. And this truth sets me free to be a child of God that loves people, not a Savior trying to play God.



 SCRIPTURES

Job 26:7-8 (NASB) “He stretches out the north over empty space, And hangs the earth on nothing. He wraps up the waters in His clouds; And the cloud does not burst under them.”

Hebrews 1:3 (NLT) “The Son radiates God’s own glory and expresses the very character of God, and he sustains everything by the mighty power of his command. When he had cleansed us from our sins, he sat down in the place of honor at the right hand of the majestic God in heaven.”



I hope this affirmation helps take the pressure off. Take a deep breath. Pray for your loved ones. Lay hands on the sick. Then keep reminding yourself to give 'em Jesus.

 

Jesus is more than enough.

 

Joyfully,

Rachel B.

NEW MEDITATION 

Need some hope? I have a new Scripture meditation I just released. You can find "Meditations for Hope" on iTunes, Spotify, and other online stores. And just so you know, I planned these meditations so that you can take a deep breath between each Scripture. Let these meditations give your body and spirit an opportunity to decompress, rest, and be refreshed as you listen.

NEW SINGLE COMING GOOD FRIDAY

I’m dropping a new single called “GO IN THE JOY” on Good Friday this week. It is a song well-timed for Easter. I hope you will check it out and enjoy this new tune.

Here is a Pre-Save link: https://distrokid.com/hyperfollow/rachelbarrentine/go-in-the-joy

Affirmation for Victory

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Affirmation

I am a warrior in the Spirit. No weapon formed against me or my destiny shall prosper. The LORD is my Personal Bravery. He fights for me every single day. He fights for the people He brings into my life to love. Together, our love fights for their blessing, freedom, and victory.

 

This is one of my FAVORITE affirmations! The Amplified Bible says that God is our Personal Bravery.

 SCRIPTURE

The Lord God is my Strength, my personal braveryand my invincible army; He makes my feet like hinds’ feet and will make me to walk [not to stand still in terror, but to walk] and make [spiritual] progress upon my high places [of trouble, suffering, or responsibility]! [ For the Chief Musician; with my stringed instruments. ]  Habakkuk 3:19 (AMPC)

 

We do well to remember there is a spiritual battle going on that we cannot see. The "symptoms" of the enemy are stealing, killing, and destroying. Our battle is not with people, it is with the spiritual forces of wickedness. Sometimes people behave badly, but, this does not mean our battle is with them. Underlying all the junk in our lives is a liar who comes to destroy, distract, and detour us off of our God-given course. When you are frustrated with someone, remember that they are an image-bearer of God. That never changes. Turn your frustration on the enemy and begin to worship God by speaking out truth, praise, and adoration. Release God's healing, direction, provision, wisdom, bravery, and favor over the very person you're frustrated with. This will change the spiritual atmosphere in your life, as well as in the heavenlies.

 

For the record, satan is not God's equal. God has no equal. Jesus is quite literally unrivaled. The spiritual forces of wickedness pale in comparison to the Lamb who was slain. Let this give you courage, bravery, and boldness to stand your ground when junk flies at you.

 

We have quite a few guests come through our home in Tennessee. When I speak this affirmation I think of family, friends, and all the guests that stay with us from time to time. I believe by partnering with God to love each one, we release favor, freedom, victory, and blessing over their lives. Just as I receive God's great love for me, I begin to pour it out as a blessing to others. It's a full-circle love.

 

What do you think? Is there a part of this affirmation or verse that is being highlighted in your spirit? Let me know in the comments.

 

Have a victorious week!

 

Joyfully,

Rachel

 

PS - My new "Meditations for Hope" is launching next Friday - April 5th. Enjoy a fresh 10-minute scripture meditation. You can find it on iTunes and other music platforms.

Affirmation To Release Beauty!

Affirmation:

I speak and release beauty wherever I go and whatever I do. My life adds beauty to this world and to others. The avenues of beauty are wide open to me (songs, thoughts, words, etc.)

Scripture

PSALM 96: 5-6, 11-12 (ESV)

For all the gods of the peoples are worthless idols, but the Lord made the heavens. Splendor and majesty are before him; strength and beauty are in his sanctuary. 11 Let the heavens be glad, and let the earth rejoice; let the sea roar, and all that fills it; 12 let the field exult, and everything in it!

 

 

When you speak and create beautiful thoughts, words, ideas, actions, or art, you bear the image of God. As human beings we carry the very image of God in our identity. But there are ways we can radiate God's image even more through our words and actions.

 

I used to think beautiful things were just a "nice to have", surplus or extra. They weren't necessities for life. However, the more I grow to know God, the more I don't think this is true.


In case you haven't noticed…

  • Everything God creates is beautiful.

  • He always goes the extra mile.

  • He goes above and beyond what's basic.

  • He provided detailed instructions for the making of the temple, the ark of the covenant, and Noah's ark.

  • All of creation is a grand display of God’s beautiful thoughts and creativity.


God even creates us with the potential to grow in beauty. He embeds in us the possibility of beauty. Why bother doing that if beauty isn't important?

 

My husband makes guitars, and they are a work of art. The level of detail and intricacy involved is absolutely stunning. Often times I ask him what a certain detail is for, and many times his answer is "aesthetics." Not everything has to be functional.


Beauty is reason enough.

 

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I want to challenge you to make a deposit of beauty into the world on a regular basis. Drop an encouraging comment onto social media and add beauty to a conversation. If you're a singer or songwriter, release a piece of beautiful music (even if it's a 30-second chorus). If you're a painter, splash some paint on a canvas and let people see it. If you are a wordsmith, release beauty through your words. If you are a person who prays for others, release the favor and beauty of God over the people you are praying for. Declare beauty over their lives, families, and children. If you cook, bring me over some dinner! Lol.

 

Beauty is everywhere. It reflects the nature and heart of God. If you want to elevate and reflect God's heart in this world…release, create, and speak beauty. I believe you have beautiful words of encouragement in you. Use this affirmation to get started. You don't have to be crafty to create beauty. You simply have to ask God how you can release beauty into this world today. 

 

The world needs you. The world needs the beauty only you can bring.

  

Joyfully,

Rachel B.

Affirmations To Change Your Life

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Hello friend. Over the next few months I am going to let you in on a little secret. I have several affirmations that I speak over my life daily. It helps me renew my mind, center my heart, and reach my destiny. These are things I believe God wants for me.

  • Do you know God has bigger dreams for your life than you do?

  • Do you know that your self-talk and the thoughts you dwell on determine the direction of your life? It’s true.

Psalm 91 says, “He who dwells in the shelter of the Most High will abide in the shadow of the Almighty.” There’s an innate promise in there. Dwelling on the Most High is the key. I don’t know about you, but I can’t just rangle my thoughts in UNLESS I have something good and noteworthy to think about.

We don’t usually just get rid of thoughts. We replace them. #faithpearls

So, over the next few months I want to invite you into this thing called “Affirmations” with me. You can make up your own. In fact, I encourage you to do so. Or you can borrow mine and use them for yourself. Or you can use mine to jump off on your own and modify them to make them just right for your specific situation. Whatever you choose, I challenge you to start speaking these affirmations out loud. It makes a difference when we declare truth into the atmosphere. Be bold and speak them loudly and clearly. Read them with intention and focus. Don’t let your mind drift when you are speaking them. Think about them as you read them aloud.

On top of these affirmations I’ll be passing on to you, don’t forget about the “Meditations for” series coming out through music channels. I have already released “Meditations for Peace.” It is available on iTunes, Spotify, Amazon, etc. The next one in the cue is Meditations for Hope. It has a whole different feel with a much more hopeful, musical soundscape. To be honest, I’m running a little behind on its release because of the flu and sinus infection this month. But look for that in a few weeks. I’ll let you know when that new Scripture meditation becomes available.

Here’s your affirmation this week:

“I reject comparison and refuse to envy others' dreams, gifts, and opportunities. Instead I celebrate their wins and successes, and I stay firmly secure in who I am in Christ. I enjoy letting the world experience “my name here" in all the ways God handcrafted me to be.”

Scripture:

Ephesians 2:10 “For we are His workmanship created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them.” (NASB)

Have a great week!

Joyfully,

Rachel B.

Meditations for Peace

Hi friends, I’m on a mission this year to release a ton of spoken Scripture with original music. I know it helps my mind and attitude tremendously if I am thinking on whatever is good, excellent, and praiseworthy. What better way to accomplish this than to listen to Scriptures - over and over.


Each 10-minute meditation has a certain theme. The first installment of the “Meditations for…” series, is called Meditations for Peace. A friend of mine just texted to let me know that she has been listening to this meditation before she goes to bed. She loves it! It’s helping to calm her mind and spirit so she can get better sleep!


What a great way to use this meditation! I hope you’ll listen over and over. As I have done that, I am literally getting these Scriptures memorized in the process. Plus, it really has increased my peace in an amazing way! There is power in the living, and active Word of God.


Here are the links if you’d like to check out this 10-minute Scripture meditation on Peace: (You can purchase or stream.)

iTunes

Spotify

Amazon


Joyfully,

Rachel B.

Because It DOES Matter

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There's nothing like those powerful words, "This doesn't matter." Those are disheartening, disempowering words. They aren't the truth though. God uses everything. In the hands of a faithful God, nothing is wasted. NOTHING.

If the enemy can steal your motivation and hope, then he doesn't have to defeat you. You defeat yourself. I may even venture to say there's a whole enemy team called "self-defeat" that may be out to devour whoever's susceptible.

So whatever you do today, know this: It matters. You matter. What you do matters. How you love matters. Your words, your acts of service, your unloading the dishwasher, your taking the carpool to school, your picking up dry-cleaning, your random no-reason hug to your spouse...these micro-decisions make up the stuff of life. They matter. They count. Even if your inner critic says they don't.

Get out of bed. Take a breath. Write the song. Give the compliment. Thank the clerk. Choose the smile. Take the nap. Pet the dog. Love your children. Listen to a piece of music that moves you. Open up your hands to God. Let Him have whatever it is you have or don't have today. Be steadfast, immovable, always abounding in the work of the Lord...not because God desperately needs you to get stuff done, but because your toil is not in vain when it's laid down at His feet.

Joyfully,

Rachel B.

#faithpearls

A New Season Of Ministry

Hi friend! Just wanted to share some new ministry direction and vision for the season ahead. When you have a few minutes, please head to the blog to watch this special message from Rachel.  //  Joyfully, Rachel B

 

Or you can go directly to Youtube here: 

https://youtu.be/2_vTcaoPXd0

Do you need a song of rest in this busy season? Me too.

Friends, I can't even begin to tell you how exhausted I am. I don't think I realized how depleted I was getting with all the travel, speaking engagements, book writing, Twelve-Record finishing, and then 10 days of pokes, prods, MRI's and other body-taxing tests at the Mayo clinic in November. 

Exhausted is an understatement.

I could feel it coming on. It was like a train wreck in slow motion. And Depression was a tiger in the corner just waiting to pounce. I knew I needed to slow down, but my schedule was filled, and I'm a person who keeps commitments. So onward I pushed. Caffeinating. Sugar-ing. Chocolate-ing. Pain-medicating...with good cause, really. But my body has been suffering. Ever been here? Click to read on...

Mayo Update

Some of you may know I went to the Mayo clinic a couple weeks ago up in Rochester, MN for a workup on my mystery abdominal pain. Ultimately, we did not find definitive answers, but we were able to rule out some big stuff like pancreatic cancer and chronic pancreatitis. It was an interesting 9 days while we were there. It felt like we were in slow motion.   //    Sometimes slower is better...

5 Ways To Worship When You're Weary

It's not easy to keep going when you're tired. Fatigue zaps us of our strength. Weariness wears on your bones and your soul. How do you keep going when you're all out of "go?" What's the secret sauce to getting your spiritual fervor back?

 

Honestly, I don't know. It's probably different for everybody. You and God are the only ones who know exactly what you have gone through and what you're currently going through. Even the people going through difficulties with you don't fully understand because they aren't you. They don't have your perspective, history, etc. Your perception and experiences are unique to you.

 

But let me offer you five ways to worship when you are weary. These aren't fix-all solutions. You won't master them in five minutes. This isn't a secret sauce or magic snake oil. But they do work if you work them. Why? Because…

 

Worship is a weapon.

Worship does spiritual warfare.

Worship is a nuisance to the enemy...

Shame Off You

Hello friends! It's been a while! Instead of feeling guilt or shame for not keeping in touch and providing your weekly spiritual nuggets, I'm simply gonna say, "Shame Off Me." Ever need to say that to yourself? Check out the fun story behind my new song "Shame Off You", and don't forget to grab a copy of my new book, BOLD. See ya on the blog! Joyfully, Rachel B.

A Prayer for the Heart in Waiting

Dear Papa,

You are the God who listens and answers.

You won't fail to come through.

You are in the delays.

You are in the waiting.

You are with me in the inbetween.

Your timing is always merciful...

Truth Ruts: Because Living a Lie Will Never Set You Free

Okay all you secret bowlers out there. You know who you are. You have your own ugly shoes, custom ball, and you don't tell anybody you like to bowl. Haha! I actually love bowling, though I don't go to the bowling alley very often. But every bowling alley I've ever been to has one thing in common: 

 

Ruts.

 

Especially for the right-handed bowlers, those lanes get ruts. Why? Because of chronic use. The real question is...are those ruts helpful? Or do they steer your ball the wrong direction?

 

When we do something habitually, or hear something over and over, it creates a rut. But not all ruts are right. Sometimes they prevent us from success. Just like ruts, I believe lies operate the same way. When we hear, entertain, agree with, or listen to a lie long enough, we eventually fall into the rut of believing it. This, in turn, steers our actions and ultimate direction in life.

 

If you listen to a lie long enough, you'll eventually live it out. But living a lie won't set you free.

Click to read more...

 

PLUS: Let Yourself Be Loved Shirts on Sale for $8 this week only!

A Prayer for the Hyper-Vigilant

Today, as I was spending time with the Holy Spirit, He revealed to me that I have agreed with the lie of perfectionism and the resulting hyper-vigilance. I don't know if you've ever felt like you always need to compete, be perfect, or constantly be looking over your shoulder. But this is a prayer for those of us who struggle in this area. It's time to break off those agreements with lies, and believe the truth about how God sees us. Enjoy!   //  

Dear Papa,

Somewhere along the line I learned to take care of myself.

I felt the need to always be looking over my shoulder.

I began to put the magnifying glass on my own mistakes,

rather than on Your perfection.

Please forgive me...click to see the rest of the prayer.

5 Keys to Squelch the Devil and Promote Kingdom Authority

We don't have normal locks on the doors to our house. We have those digital locks with a keypad. It doesn't require a key. It requires a code. We like this because when our hands are full of groceries we don't have to dig inside our pocket or purse to find a key. We simply punch in the code and gain access to unlock the door. //  There's a similar parallel to the spiritual realm. Matthew 28:8 says, "And Jesus came up and spoke to them, saying, 'All authority has been given to Me in heaven and on earth.'" If all authority belongs to Jesus, then how is it that the devil has any authority at all on earth? How does he gain access and authority in our life? //  In short: We give him the access code. Click to read more.

An Addendum and Clarification on "I See Dead People" Post

About a month ago I posted a somewhat controversial blog about healing, God's will, and the Sovereignty of God. It was entitled, "I See Dead People...in Church."  Rather than breeze over that controversy, I feel it might be better to add some clarification. I think I may have unintentionally put a burden of shame on some of you, and I'd love the opportunity to take that weight off. That was not my intention at all. I have included a powerful video by Ravi Zacharias at the end of the post. When you can carve out 15 minutes, I encourage you to watch it. It's very moving and helpful for this topic. Click the link to see the post!  //  Joyfully, Rachel B.

A Prayer For The Anxious Heart

Unravel my thoughts.

Untangle my fears.

Untrouble my heart.

I take my thoughts captive

And lead them into Your presence.

They become prisoners of truth.

No more spinning.

No more deception.

No more false accusations.

I choose to think on what is true, noble, right and good...

(To see the rest of the prayer, click on the link.)